tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1173265715484373279.post75396229066327499..comments2024-03-28T09:05:41.257+00:00Comments on Muslimah in Solace: I Am Taking My Hijab Off... Really?Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13576371133449650476noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1173265715484373279.post-34612618225629135642014-04-19T01:14:39.993+01:002014-04-19T01:14:39.993+01:00asalaamu alaikum...I knew a sister that this happe...asalaamu alaikum...I knew a sister that this happened to her, this was like 13 years ago around the time of 9/11 some random jerk yanked her scarf off downtown at a bus stop and she stopped covering after that. Allahu alim...after that I remember her wanting to go back to covering but she was too afraid. I personally have been covering since the mid/early 1990's (yeah im old. LOL) and personally...I have seen enough nonsense and dealt with enough stupid people to know none of them would ever shake me up. After 9/11 I had problems with creepy people, stalkers, random dorks screaming nonsense to me and dumb stuff like that, even after that ive had dumb people now and again bother me...but frankly...it just makes me stronger. Ive always been sassy and my sassyness has only increased with age...also ive also felt deep in my heart that covering fisabIllah is fardh and none something that can be taken lightly as its a form of taqwa...Allahu alim...but anywya. I think sometimes some sisters cover for reasons which maybe arent as sturdy and use any opportunity to stop covering or to modify. I understand some sisters have had truely horrible experiences with someone targeting them for covering but alhamdullah those cases are relatively small in comparison, having someone stalk you or harrass you or even tug at your scarf isnt too aweful that some gumption can't overcome. I think some of this harrassment stems from someone deeming someone an easy target. I personally always walk loud and proud, head up high, make eye contact. I dont play around, if someone bothers me I get nasty in a hurry. I dont play those games. mess with me, i'll mess right back hence I dont get much nonsense from people...but I have noticed that the sisters that Ive seen be harrassed at the ones that sense the "weakling" message...girl...walk proud and dont take any sh*t. anyway, I have a lot of different thoughts on this topic...Allah knows best. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1173265715484373279.post-23103904585257754052014-02-11T14:14:32.816+00:002014-02-11T14:14:32.816+00:00Waliykum Asalam sister. Jazaka Allah khier for you...Waliykum Asalam sister. Jazaka Allah khier for you comment. I do agree, we need to surround ourselves with Good role models and Muslimahs who are going to remind us of Allah and to fear Allah. I did not have that growing up so it was a struggle for me to understand how Islam could fit into my life, and how I would wear hijab one day. I had no Muslimah Friends and it was hard to imagine wearing it and having a social and work life. So I do agree, the doubts we have are from Shiytan and He (Allah curse him) makes those negative comments we receive a million times worse then what they are. <br />I have done a previous post reminding sisters of why we wear Hijab and what Proper Hijab is, using Quran text and hadiths. So insha Allah you can read that sister, and share with others. But I agree we need more encouragement of proper hijab and more support from our loved ones. <br /><br />Waliykum Asalam -x- Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13576371133449650476noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1173265715484373279.post-83298439739375388972014-02-11T14:10:05.882+00:002014-02-11T14:10:05.882+00:00Salam Anon. Jazaka Allah khier. of course I unders...Salam Anon. Jazaka Allah khier. of course I understand it is hard to wear Hijab. But when you love something no matter what obstacles may come your way, you wont let go of what you Love. So I guess it is an issue with the foundation of the iman of that individual. It is not the Hijab that is the issue, it is the persons heart and Love for Allah. When you Love something sooo much you do anything for it. If we had that Love for Allah then it would be the same, we do everything Allah commanded with no second thoughts. Allah make us strong in our deen. <br />Jazaka Allah khier again for reading, and I hope my posts will be useful to you sister.<br /><br />Wasalam -x- Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13576371133449650476noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1173265715484373279.post-80481778455412830242014-02-07T16:46:09.972+00:002014-02-07T16:46:09.972+00:00Salam aleikum dear sister, thank you soooo much fo...Salam aleikum dear sister, thank you soooo much for adressing this issue. I find it so difficult to find somebody openminded to talk about hijab. We all tend to judge so fast if a sister mentions that she THINKS about taking off the hijab. We quickly say mean things and even think in a bad way about that sister, like it makes her less of a Muslima. But what we should consider is that women who think about taking of their veil do this because they have issues with the way OTHER people treat her. Its not necessarily a loose of faith. They are just exhausted by negative comments, lack of finding a job etc. So what we should do is to look behind this wish and see how we can HELP them get over this issue or how to face mean people. Judging them and making them feel bad about themself will make the situation even worse. I think a good thing to o is to remind them on why we were hijab, some people in a situation like this only see the disadvantages (being judged, being stared at, not fitting in etc) so we should remind our sisters and ourselves about the advantages and also about the obligation of wearing it. Another good thing is to plan something with other sisters so the sister has Muslim friends around her who like her in the way she is, that is fun and a good opportunity to charge her Iman :)<br />Aleikum salamAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17401368421525734668noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1173265715484373279.post-90873894487908103352014-02-03T16:38:53.021+00:002014-02-03T16:38:53.021+00:00Salam sister salwa, Very good read and I appreciat...Salam sister salwa, Very good read and I appreciate your intentions. However, I believe it is not always so straight forward for others. Allah has given you that strong conviction that works for you. I removed my hijab a few times and I am not saying it is right but at the same time it was right for me at that time. I appreciate your advice and I can only pray Allah makes me like you to have that passion for the Hijab and Islam. I enjoy reading your posts and find them interesting to read. Jzka Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com